There are certain things your boyfriend says, but doesn't exactly mean. He might be spitting out little white lies in order to make you happy, or simply to avoid a fight. He's just doing what he thinks is best, so you really can't blame him. Here are a few common things your boyfriend says, and what he actually means:
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You Look Fine
If he tells you that you look fine right before you're about to head to a party, he just wants to leave the house. He's worried that if he makes the wrong comment on your hair, you'll disappear into the bathroom for another hour and end up late for the event. This is one of the things your boyfriend says when he wants to get you moving. He may not have even looked at what you're wearing. He just wants to go.
He'll typically say this while he's doing something that suggests he's not paying attention, like playing video games or staring at his phone. He's not interested enough in listening to look you in the eyes, but he's smart enough to make it seem like he's paying attention so you don't get angry. He's playing it safe.
Your boyfriend might say "I'm listening" when you're trying to have a conversation with him, but it doesn't necessarily mean he is. He might be playing video games or scrolling through his phone, not giving you the attention you deserve. He's not interested enough to look you in the eyes, but he's smart enough to make it seem like he's paying attention so you don't get angry.
It can be hard to tell if he's actually listening or not, but there are some signs that he's not. If he's not looking at you, he's likely not listening. If he's not asking questions or responding to what you're saying, that's another sign that he's not engaged in the conversation. If he's not able to repeat back to you what you just said, it's a sure sign he wasn't paying attention.
It's a Guy Thing
If he does something that you don't understand, he can claim that it's a guy thing and you can't do anything about it. You're not a guy, so how would you know whether or not he's lying? This excuse is his way of telling you that he has no other reasonable explanation for his actions.
She's like a Sister
When a guy wants you to stop bugging him about the girl he's good friends with, he'll claim that she's like a sister to him. It may or may not be true, but it's a way to make you less jealous. He wants you to think that he considers her to be part of the family, and that he'd never even consider kissing her.
Do What You Want
If a guy tells you to do whatever you want, because he's not in charge of you, don't believe him. Chances are there's something very specific that he wants you to do, but he doesn't want it to look like he's pushing you. He wants to have it his way, but doesn't want to get accused of controlling you.
It’s no secret that men can be difficult to understand, especially when it comes to relationships. Women often find themselves scratching their heads in confusion when their boyfriends say things like, “Do whatever you want.” But what does that really mean?
Well, it could mean a few different things. It could mean that he genuinely wants you to make your own decision and isn’t trying to control you. On the other hand, it could mean that he has a very specific idea of what he wants you to do, but doesn’t want to come off as controlling. He might be trying to be subtle and manipulate you into doing what he wants.
In any case, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate the situation. If he’s trying to control you, then it’s important to set boundaries and let him know that you won’t tolerate that kind of behavior. If he’s not trying to control you, then it’s important to trust him and respect his wishes.
I Was Joking
If you get offended by something he says, he'll claim he was joking. He probably wasn't, but he'll act like he was in order to diffuse the situation. He might even turn the situation around on you and ask why you're so serious that you can't take a little joke?
Text Me when You're Home
This is a way for him to tell you that he cares about you without having to spell it out for you. He wants to know that you're home safe, because he values your existence. He wouldn't want you hurt, and this is his roundabout way of saying it.
Don't be too annoyed at your boyfriend for saying something other than what he actually means, because you've done the same thing to him. As long as he doesn't make lying a habit, you have nothing to worry about. Has your boyfriend said any of these things to you lately?
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