Don't assume that your ex wasn't as hurt over your breakup as you were. Even though he's not going around telling his buddies about how you shattered his heart, it doesn't mean that he's not crushed. Men and women just show their emotions in different ways. Here are the main differences between how guys handle breakups and how girls handle breakups:
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1. Men Ignore It All
Women love to talk about their feelings, but men want nothing to do with emotions. So while you'll burst into tears when a guy tries to break up with you, a man will pretend not to hear you when you try to break up with you. In his mind, as long as he doesn't hear your complaints, you'll still consider him a perfect boyfriend.
2. Women "Win" the Breakup
While most men will drown their sorrows with alcohol and rebound girls, most women would rather go on a shopping spree. After all, we need to look our best so we can post photos to Instagram and make our ex see what he's missing. A breakup is a game and the more attractive person is the winner, so we don't mind maxing out our credit cards to become the victor.
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3. Men Don't Admit to Crying
Despite popular belief, men cry too. However, instead of openly admitting it, they'll hide behind their anger. If a guy gets caught crying over his ex, then he's going to come up with some crazy excuse about how something got caught in his eye or how he was just exercising his tear ducts to become stronger.
4. Women Want Alone Time
Women don't always want to gab to their girlfriends about how sad they are. Sometimes, we just want to be left alone to listen to Taylor Swift sing about all the men that screwed her over. Even if you hate the singer, a breakup will make you temporarily forget that, because you'll feel like she's the only person who can relate to you.
5. Men Fool Themselves
When a guy gets broken up with, he'll come up with as many ridiculous insults about his ex that he can. It's the only way he can trick himself into believing that he didn't just lose the best thing that ever happened to him. So if your ex tells you that your taste in music is crummy or that you're too funny for a girl, then be comforted by the fact that he can't think of anything real to insult you about.
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6. Women Become Emotionless
Men aren't the only ones who enjoy the occasional one-night-stand. When a woman gets her heart shattered beyond repair, she'll want someone to take away her pain. Of course, she won't want to get emotional this time around, so she'll make it clear that the sex won't lead to anything--even though it probably will.
7. We Both Go Insane
Whether you're a male or a female, you're going to go on an emotional roller coaster after a breakup. It's just the way it has to be.
Don't assume that you're the only one suffering from the breakup, because your ex is just as miserable as you--he just shows it in a different way. Have you done any of these things after a bad breakup?
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nhanceu: Hell yes, going through it right now but I can't make more of a fool of myself. It's hard 😢
Cindy: Aaaww Holly, I love your articles, you are intelligent, funny, and sensitive, and I noticed a girl with morals, a rare find nowadays. Keep up the good work, sure you have the most followers on here ;)
Katie: Depends on the person
Emma: I just shop, eat chocolate and listen to Taylor Swift.
Angela: They drink a shit ton
Lindsay: It is true that many men show much less outward emotion than women, as they have been trained is acceptable. The way we raise men in this culture, they are "allowed" to feel just one thing - anger. All other emotion is considered weak, vulnerable, and therefore "bad" or unattractive. The truth is that men feel just as women do, but are often unfamiliar with the names of the feelings and how to handle them differently, directing all feelings into the world as anger. Not all men act in this way, though it tends to be more common for them. Each of us gets a message about vulnerability - we learn from those around us whether expressing emotions is “acceptable” or not. The challenge is that when we don’t allow ourselves to feel emotion, it stays stuck inside us and ends up making us more miserable. We can build up so much suppressed emotion we prevent our own happiness, hope, and progress toward the kind of love we really want. Women, though often more emotionally expressive, can get stuck in another way. We can talk and talk and talk and talk about feelings without actually FEELING them. In this way, we repress emotion, even as we talk about it. There are ways to learn to really feel emotion in a safe space, which allows it to release and no longer drive your choices. Emotion is just trying to be released so we can let it go. Xx, Lindsay
Leah: Going through this my bf split with me yesterday and now i look like an idiot cos i cant stop crying 😒
weirdstuffantiques: Yeah and some drown in another woman.
ssourn: success is the best revenge.
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