There are certain things your boyfriend says, but doesn't exactly mean. He might be spitting out little white lies in order to make you happy, or simply to avoid a fight. He's just doing what he thinks is best, so you really can't blame him. Here are a few common things your boyfriend says, and what he actually means:
1. You Look Fine
If he tells you that you look fine right before you're about to head to a party, he just wants to leave the house. He's worried that if he makes the wrong comment on your hair, you'll disappear into the bathroom for another hour and end up late for the event. This is one of the things your boyfriend says when he wants to get you moving. He may not have even looked at what you're wearing. He just wants to go.
2. I'm Listening
He'll typically say this while he's doing something that suggests he's not paying attention, like playing video games or staring at his phone. He's not interested enough in listening to look you in the eyes, but he's smart enough to make it seem like he's paying attention so you don't get angry. He's playing it safe.
3. It's a Guy Thing
If he does something that you don't understand, he can claim that it's a guy thing and you can't do anything about it. You're not a guy, so how would you know whether or not he's lying? This excuse is his way of telling you that he has no other reasonable explanation for his actions.
4. She's like a Sister
When a guy wants you to stop bugging him about the girl he's good friends with, he'll claim that she's like a sister to him. It may or may not be true, but it's a way to make you less jealous. He wants you to think that he considers her to be part of the family, and that he'd never even consider kissing her.
5. Do What You Want
If a guy tells you to do whatever you want, because he's not in charge of you, don't believe him. Chances are there's something very specific that he wants you to do, but he doesn't want it to look like he's pushing you. He wants to have it his way, but doesn't want to get accused of controlling you.
6. I Was Joking
If you get offended by something he says, he'll claim he was joking. He probably wasn't, but he'll act like he was in order to diffuse the situation. He might even turn the situation around on you and ask why you're so serious that you can't take a little joke?
7. Text Me when You're Home
This is a way for him to tell you that he cares about you without having to spell it out for you. He wants to know that you're home safe, because he values your existence. He wouldn't want you hurt, and this is his roundabout way of saying it.
Don't be too annoyed at your boyfriend for saying something other than what he actually means, because you've done the same thing to him. As long as he doesn't make lying a habit, you have nothing to worry about. Has your boyfriend said any of these things to you lately?
Frequently Asked Questions
- What does it mean when he says 'Do whatever you want'?
- Honestly, it can mean a lot of things! Sometimes it’s a sign he’s frustrated or feels like he can’t win. Other times, he might genuinely be trying to give you freedom to make your own choice. Context is key here!
- If a guy says you’re funny, should you take it as a compliment?
- Absolutely! When a guy says you're funny, it's usually a genuine compliment. He probably enjoys your sense of humor and feels comfortable around you.
- What does it mean when a guy says he's 'going through something'?
- It often means he’s dealing with some personal issues or stress. It can be an opening for a deeper conversation, but also be aware he might need some space to work things out on his own.
- How should I interpret 'You do you' in a relationship?
- This usually means he respects your individuality and wants you to make choices that make you happy. But, if said in a dismissive tone, it can mean he’s detached and doesn’t want to be involved.
- When a guy says 'It's over,' does he really mean it?
- Most of the time, yes. When someone is clear and direct about ending things, it’s best to take their word for it. It’s painful, but it’s also a step toward moving on and finding someone who truly appreciates you.